Technique 6: I-Messages

How is the technique implemented?

 I-messages are a unique technique that gives the client the opportunity to apply a pronoun, typically I, to their statements in order to assume responsibility.  They are commonly used to express or discover feelings.  By changing a statement to be read with the word I in it the client is then put in a situation where they can control either their emotions or actions.  These messages can help to begin a more complex dialogue as well.  This technique is typically implemented in a manner that the client gives a feeling, a related behavior, and the consequence of that behavior.

What type of situation can the technique be applied to?

 This technique is especially useful when a client feels stuck and needs directed towards a proactive role in becoming unstuck.  A variation of I-messages are we-statements  which gives a group connotation to the exercise.  The we-statements are an effective exercise in not placing blame onto another person.

What is your opinion of the technique?
 I like this technique as a way to gain insight on the client's emotion.  Once an understanding is built regarding how the client feels, this step serves as an essential step into the action stage of counseling.